Preface to the War Entries:
In anticipation of the question, Why would I write such raw recollections about the following events? For 10 years Peter and I have been silent in response to unfounded horrible allegations, slanderous comments, insults and bitter accusations that Nancy, Peter's mother, has made about us. She has repeated these terrible lies to family, friends, clients and suppliers and just about anyone willing to stand within hearing range. All of her lies were proven untrue over the years as I will describe in later postings on what I call "The War" and what Peter calls his "Divorce." After the death of her father, Peter's grandfather, in February we were contacted by her sisters asking to hear our side of the story for the first time. We were unsure of their motivations and did not want to stir up more trouble, so we again remained silent.
We have asked Nancy over 15 times to stop writing, emailing or contacting us in any way, yet she ignores our requests and persists in sending the most vile communications you could imagine, including a few classics just this month. Her communications come randomly and without provocation and she will not stop. I will not stay silent any longer while she makes veiled and direct threats against our family and our family's wellbeing. I worry about her sanity to the extent that I have warned Pierson's school every year to never under any circumstances allow her access to him. I honestly do not know what she is capable of doing at this point. Enough is enough. She has had ample opportunity to spout lies unchallenged and was given 10 years of warnings and requests to leave us alone. I am going to tell the whole story, the unvarnished truth to the best of my recollection and with the help of my journals, her emails and her letters that I have saved over the past 10 years.
Why respond now after 10 years? We had hoped that Peter and his grandparents and that side of his extended family would reconcile. We also hoped that over the years, Nancy would stop harassing us and get on with her life. The death of both of Peter's grandparents did not put things into a larger perspective for Nancy, in fact she has grown more shrill and angry since February. At this point we both realize that no reconciliation is coming, it is a lost cause. We are hoping that by confronting this situation, a new tactic for us, it will finally be put to bed.
Part 1 - The Beginning of the War
Part 2 - Slipping Out in a Snowstorm
Part 3 - A Nice Birthday Party Fiasco
Part 4 - Truth, Lies and Velcro Thighs
Part 9 - Accountants, a Depreciation Schedule and My Resignation
Part 11 - The IRS, a Police Report and Nancy Goes Out of Business
Part 13 - The Next Victims January 2007